Do you feel like you’re waiting on the next book or certification or workshop or yoga teacher or special herbal tea to make you feel better?
If you’re like most of us, you think there’s something “wrong” with you and that’s why you don’t feel 100% health in your body and/or mind.
But what if there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you but instead, any illness or upset that happens is just your body speaking to you, saying, “pay attention”…? Would that change things for you?
I started taking my own healthcare into my hands 10 years ago when I began to have debilitating (black out) anxiety attacks. In 2012, I decided that I didn’t want to take medicine anymore and so I dove into the world of yoga and meditation and a 10 day silent Vipassana course and sound baths and (insert other “healing modality” here).
I tried every diet under the sun: vegetarian, vegan, paleo, whole foods, no sugar, gluten-free, mono-diet, kitchari cleanse, juice cleanse…
But it seemed like no matter what I DID, I could never just seem to BE with myself. I never felt like I was enough.
Does that sound anything like you? I felt wrong because I didn’t have a solid group of girlfriends, wrong because I was dating emotionally unavailable men, and wrong for wanting more out of the blessed life I had.
And then I turned inward.
I began to realize that for myself, and for the bigger Lunar Nourishment community, something just wasn’t clicking. We were doing all of the “things” that defined self-care but of us still felt miserable.
It was like we were hopping from one thing to the next hoping that SOMEONE else would help us get to where we wanted to be. But I’m here to share with you that..
Life is not about jumping from one goal to the next.
It’s not about being “good enough” or “better than I was before”…
No- this IS life.
Life doesn’t magically stop happening when we reach a milestone. It continues- like water cutting through rocks; it’s a powerful force that can drown us or send us flowing; weightless and carried by it’s strength.
So what will you choose? To drown, or to be carried by the current?
I’m not sure about you but my mind is constantly a sea of thoughts. A barrage of “I should be doing this.”
“Why did I say that?”
“I have to be better at..”
So how can we learn to help ourselves? For me, it comes in steps- a sequence- like a dance.
5 ways to become your own healer
1: Accept How you Feel
This step is HUGE. Anxiety is created from disconnection to self. When we don’t feel good, it’s often because we are resisting; whether it be pain or illness or emotional anguish or worry. We are resisting WHAT IS. So the first step in helping ourselves is simple, accept how we feel. I do this by stating it out loud or writing it down. Using very basic words and terms, “I feel sad.” “My feelings are hurt.”
2. FEEL how you feel
Once you accept how you feel, it’s time to actually FEEL it. Like a child, sometimes we need to FEEL for just a few minutes, to get it out of our system. If you put words to how you’re feeling, let yourself express them. If you’re sad, cry it out. If you’re overwhelmed, breathe loudly. If you’re happy, laugh. This is all about letting ourselves know that FEELING is okay- it’s not negative and it’s natural. So, feel how you feel.
3. Practice compassion
When we feel our emotions, especially if we’re not used to that practice, a little guilt comes in. “I have no reason to be upset” or “other people have it way worse than I do.” So practice compassion for yourself. For your feelings, no matter how messy or silly they are. Take a moment with a hand on your heart and a hand on your belly to just love yourself, no matter how you feel.
Processing what comes up is where the work comes in. When we don’t recognize what we’re feeling, it gets buried and blocked. Blocked energy is manifested as illness and even pain in the body. So, help yourself by processing. This looks different for everyone. For me, it helps to write in a journal. Just noting what came up for me, and what I’m dealing with. Processing could look like sweating it out in a yoga class or taking a walk or even calling a friend. It’s up to you but definitely let it out!
5. Take Action
This is the fun part! It’s time to take action to help yourself!
We are our own healers and our own friends.
When we can love ourselves and care for ourselves, as much as we do for others, we are truly thriving- not just surviving.