How To Truly Let Go

It is in the letting go, that we allow beauty the room to breathe.

Letting go is tricky; it’s often a dance between growth and comfort; between sadness and relief.  The moment we do let go, the light usually comes in.  I often find it hard to let go in relationship with others.  As women, we have this tendency to over nurture, over compensate and over extend ourselves for those we love. 

We do this for several reasons but one of the biggest is because we feel like love is conditional.  Perhaps we grew up thinking that to receive love from others, we had to show them how much we could do for them, or how happy we could make them.  Maybe we feel guilty when we take care of ourselves more than we care for others.  When we let go of the idea that we have to show others our love, to be loved, we are free to truly be ourselves.  A friend of mine posted on social media today 

“Don’t think. It complicates things. Just feel, and if it feels like home then follow its path.”  

image: Lunar Nourishment

image: Lunar Nourishment

One tool that I use, every single day, to move away from my mind and into my intuition and my heart is a Medicine Wheel, traditionally used as a healing tool by Native Americans.  The wheel can be interpreted for several different reasons but I use it for 4 main aspects of life: Intuition, Love, Emotions and the Mind.  

The four directions are:

North representing Intuition.

South representing Love.

East representing the Mind.

West representing Emotions.

For a relationship to work, and to truly allow yourself to let go, it’s important to operate from the North and the South. However, we live in an East/West society of thinking and feeling and analyzing and doing.  As soon as we begin to move to the North and the South, our mind calms and our Spirits relax. 

I invite you to focus on a situation or decision that’s causing you stress in your life.  Take a moment to sit with it and take a few deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. After viewing your situation from the North and the South, ask yourself 2 questions:

1. What do you know, intuitively, must be done? 

2. What would you do, purely out of love, for this situation? 

Those two actions, staying present in love and intuition, are often the only answers we need...